A couple of weeks ago my counselor talked to me about boundaries.  She gave me “homework” I was to watch a video. I couldn’t get that particular video to pull up. I did manage to find several others.

Squirrel: she was super excited that I had done the work!!

What did I learn?

I learned even though I knew exactly what they were I sucked at it!!!!

I have always been a people pleaser. I always jump right in to fix things, often at my own expense.  I never saw that as a lack of boundaries. I figured it was just how I do things, who I am.

Trying to apply boundaries can be hard. I have had guilt creep in and wisper ” just go ahead and do the thing”  I have also had people who were used to my lack of boundaries not understand what happened.

I really had to step back and remember that I deserve the same love, patience, and effort for myself that I have poured out to others.

I heard this the other day and it was really quite perfect:

I don’t have to put out the fire just because I noticed it burning.